Don't Marry the Problem... Marry the Solution...
...and know the difference between the two!
I've spent a few days thinking about how to deal with a few niggling problems I'm having right now.
The first one is my son needs assistance in getting himself hooked up with a part time job to supplement his student life-style. He's been trying really hard, applying everywhere for everything but he's met a roadblock and now he's frustrated! I recognise the fact that my 16 year
old boy now wants to be able to go to his own bank account and serve himself financially instead of waiting for handouts. He's very independent, a proud young man and he and loves money but he really doesn't want the embarrassment of getting caught attaining money in juvenile get-rich-quick schemes. He asked me for assistance, so for me, that's problem number one because he's looking to his mama, the woman with all the answers for an answer!
The second problem I'm having is how do I cope with 'not having it all RIGHT NOW'. One thing I know about myself for sure is the fact that I'm impatient. But I also know this; nothing good comes easy. You don't get a loaf of bread without first kneading the dough, watching it rise and then baking it. Everything that's worth having takes time. But I'm still fighting a battle with the inner me and the Universe in terms of asking 'how long do I have to wait, where is it, what day will it arrive and did you understand my request'? My impatience is interfering with my capacity to appreciate the here and now.
Lastly, my third problem is dating! Of all things, I'm now worrying about being single instead of appreciating the freedom of it all. I want to see good things in my current situation and be happy and comfortable with it, but the fact is, I'm getting
so comfortable with my lifestyle I'm beginning to worry that I'm undatable! It's weird because I'm both complacent and I'm also suffering from having an itch I need to scratch! I'm almost too happy with me just being with me but the nagging voice in my head and deep down in my soul is "GIRL, YOU NEED YOU A MAN. GIRL, YOU NEED TO HAVE SOME MASCULINE FLAVOURED FUN. GIRL YOU NEED ROMANCE AND SOMEONE FAB TO SHARE LOVE WITH". And then I say to myself being single means "I'M FREE FROM FEAR, A SCREAMING ROLLER-COASTER OF EMOTIONS, CONFUSION, DRAMA AND OTHER PEOPLE'S PROBLEMS"!
Maybe I just need time to meditate and pray; and not pray for money, magic and a miracle. I just need time to re-establish living each day as it comes instead of trying to attach myself to solving problems.
I guess something only becomes a problem if you give it the wrong title.
I've spent a few days thinking about how to deal with a few niggling problems I'm having right now.The first one is my son needs assistance in getting himself hooked up with a part time job to supplement his student life-style. He's been trying really hard, applying everywhere for everything but he's met a roadblock and now he's frustrated! I recognise the fact that my 16 year
old boy now wants to be able to go to his own bank account and serve himself financially instead of waiting for handouts. He's very independent, a proud young man and he and loves money but he really doesn't want the embarrassment of getting caught attaining money in juvenile get-rich-quick schemes. He asked me for assistance, so for me, that's problem number one because he's looking to his mama, the woman with all the answers for an answer!
The second problem I'm having is how do I cope with 'not having it all RIGHT NOW'. One thing I know about myself for sure is the fact that I'm impatient. But I also know this; nothing good comes easy. You don't get a loaf of bread without first kneading the dough, watching it rise and then baking it. Everything that's worth having takes time. But I'm still fighting a battle with the inner me and the Universe in terms of asking 'how long do I have to wait, where is it, what day will it arrive and did you understand my request'? My impatience is interfering with my capacity to appreciate the here and now.Lastly, my third problem is dating! Of all things, I'm now worrying about being single instead of appreciating the freedom of it all. I want to see good things in my current situation and be happy and comfortable with it, but the fact is, I'm getting
so comfortable with my lifestyle I'm beginning to worry that I'm undatable! It's weird because I'm both complacent and I'm also suffering from having an itch I need to scratch! I'm almost too happy with me just being with me but the nagging voice in my head and deep down in my soul is "GIRL, YOU NEED YOU A MAN. GIRL, YOU NEED TO HAVE SOME MASCULINE FLAVOURED FUN. GIRL YOU NEED ROMANCE AND SOMEONE FAB TO SHARE LOVE WITH". And then I say to myself being single means "I'M FREE FROM FEAR, A SCREAMING ROLLER-COASTER OF EMOTIONS, CONFUSION, DRAMA AND OTHER PEOPLE'S PROBLEMS"!
Maybe I just need time to meditate and pray; and not pray for money, magic and a miracle. I just need time to re-establish living each day as it comes instead of trying to attach myself to solving problems.I guess something only becomes a problem if you give it the wrong title.
posted by August Mayfield at
18:10
4 Comments:
August, listen to your heart man. You already sound like your own best friend!
Each day as it comes. I take something away with me reading that.
I felt like I was running very very fast in heels, driving to the store, holding babies, keeping my husband happy, going to work, holding it all together but I have to hold it right there because something you said stopped me in my tracks. I need to believe that its going to be alright. No matter how hard I press my foot on the gas.
I married the problem. Really. In a church with flowers, a big white dress and everything. I'm now dating the solution and I'm very happy! Too much of my time was spent trying to be someting for someone and not being me. Be youself.
I'm like you August, I'm happy single but I'm contemplating dating but I don't want it to disturb my peaceful equilibrium! Peace could with a bit of sparkle.
Life... I need a manual.
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